There is no magic formula for dealing with stress, but you can use different strategies to deal with it positively. In this text, strategies are presented to you, preceded by key questions allowing you to assess the relevance of each strategy for you.
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TAKE CARE OF YOUR FRIENDLY RELATIONSHIPS
Are your friendships sufficiently diverse and well balanced?
Are there some people you might want to distance yourself from?
Social support is important, especially if you are going through difficult things or have to adapt to a big change. Asking for help or confiding in yourself allows you to see things more clearly, to develop a new perspective. It is also very reassuring to realize that you are not alone or alone with a difficulty. A diverse network of acquaintances (eg, close friends or girlfriends, boyfriends and girlfriends to do activities) is often the most likely to meet your needs. However, it is important to choose the people around you and, above all, those with whom you confide. If necessary, consult a professional. Watch out for “food-energy” people, to whom you should always be available, but who offer little in return. If social contact makes you anxious or anxious, check out the text on social anxiety.
Can you make time for yourself each week without feeling guilty or feelings like you’re wasting your time?
Do you have activities that make you happy?
Leisure is a fun way to “unplug” yourself from everyday worries. When entering university, some people dismiss this aspect of their life. These periods are essential for good concentration later. It can be helpful to clearly share the time allocated to your studies and your leisure time (eg lunchtime, weekend day). This will help you to better enjoy either of these activities and not let your studies take over the time to recharge your batteries. Obviously, distracting yourself to the extreme can be harmful and on the contrary increase your stress levels.
If you can’t find the time to have fun, it is possible that there is overinvestment in some area of your life (school, work, romantic relationship). Try to: grant you rewards (eg: restaurant meals, massage) after sustained efforts; give yourself periods or days when you allow your brain to stop working in fourth gear; make sure you enjoy at least part of the day. If this is not possible, it can help to combine certain activities (eg studying in a cafe). Otherwise, exhaustion awaits you!
Are you able to express your opinion while respecting the opinions of others?
… To say no without getting lost in the justifications?
… To ask without always being afraid of disturbing?
… To respect your needs without wanting to please everyone?
… To respond to a criticism without being aggressive or devaluing yourself?
Assertiveness is an important part of good stress management, in order to set limits in the face of demands from other people or from your environment. Indeed, several everyday situations can turn into irritating stress if you have difficulty asserting yourself spontaneously (e.g. not admitting that you are having difficulty in a subject, not managing to refuse a shift, agree to do other people’s housework). The feeling of not being able to keep the commitments that you could not refuse is a source of stress that can be eliminated!
TRY NEW STRATEGIES
Are you managing your time well?
Do you usually demonstrate efficiency and focus during your study periods?
Do you have difficulty memorizing the material?
Do you have good strategies for preparing for and taking your exams?
Are you attentive, attentive during the lessons?
Do you feel nervous when you have to give an oral presentation?
Do you have difficulty structuring your long assignments?
Are you motivated, motivated by your study program?
You can consult the texts on study methods. Just as it is difficult to do well in a skill sport without any technique, it is important to have good strategies for approaching school tasks. Poor work practices and habits can lead to wasted time and discouragement. You don’t always have to study more to be successful; sometimes you have to study differently.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR RATE OF LIFE
Do you constantly feel that time is pressing you, pushing you around?
Do you know how to organize yourself well?
Do you know your priorities?
In the heat of the moment, it’s not always easy to realize the impact your lifestyle has on your stress levels. Time management and organization are essential elements for good stress management, especially for a student who has to meet multiple deadlines. Managing time left to chance creates the impression that you are constantly overwhelmed or overwhelmed, that you are scattered and no longer in control. It’s important to set priorities and make choices to get the most out of what you do. It may even be necessary to give up certain activities (eg taking one less class, reducing your working hours).
INCREASE YOUR STRESS RESISTANCE
Do you use any means to release tension?
Are you in shape?
A well-maintained system is better prepared to deal with stress. Increasing your resistance (that is, making sure you have time to “recharge your battery”) is a good way to cope with the demands of student life.
EAT AND SLEEP IN PEACE …
These elements are the very basis of your operation. Unfortunately, in the hustle and bustle of college life, it can be easy to overlook these simple truths or overlook them during times of stress. You can also read the text “Insomnia“.
CHANNEL STRESS INTO PHYSICAL ACTIVITY
The main efforts in student life are intellectual and therefore sedentary. Because of the multiple benefits of physical exercise (eg health, self-esteem, mood), this strategy should be considered. No need to become an athlete to benefit from it! Physical exercise is said to have the ability to predispose the body and mind to intellectual work. This is why active students find it easier to relax and focus during their study periods and exams. Ideally, you should practice the activity at a time when you feel less able to study (this maximizes the effectiveness of the study and minimizes wasted time).
Warning! Do not confuse physical activity (which requires muscles and “cardio”) and training (performance and personal achievement). The first criterion for choosing an activity should be the pleasure of doing it. You can also choose to take more advantage of daily opportunities to move (eg: walking).
RELAX A LITTLE
It can be helpful to learn a relaxation technique. Applicable on any occasion, it reduces the physical symptoms of stress. There are several effective relaxation methods. It is important to choose a method that you are comfortable with. You can choose to take a class (eg yoga) or try to incorporate one of the relaxation techniques presented in this site.
ACT CONCRETE: SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS
Do you find it abnormal to have problems?
Do you tend to try not to think about it?
Do you spend more time thinking about your problems than the solutions to solve them?
Do you see your problems as threats rather than challenges?
A problem could be defined as the difference felt (subjectively) between a real situation and an ideal situation. Problem solving is an exercise that aims to clarify the situation that concerns you by defining it in less global and confusing terms (eg: things are bad in my studies) and to analyze it. It has probably happened to you to feel helpless or helpless in a situation, to consider it as “too complicated”. It is then tempting to try not to think about the problem, to run away from it rather than face it.
SHOW INDULGENCE TO YOURSELF
Do you tend to hold high and rigid demands?
How much do you compare yourself to others?
Do your goals cripple you more than they stimulate you?
How often do you feel dissatisfied, even when you are doing well?
Do you have trouble giving yourself the right to make mistakes?
You can’t consistently stand out from the crowd in college, and for this reason, it’s often more beneficial to compare yourself … to yourself. There is nothing wrong with ambition, but too high demands may discourage and paralyze you more than stimulate you. Some factors are beyond your control; that way, you could really do your best and still be dissatisfied or dissatisfied.
You will then tend to think that what you have done was not enough, to belittle yourself, while redoubling your efforts, to achieve … perfection? This attitude is often characteristic of perfectionist students. They are eternally dissatisfied who maintain doubts about their abilities, despite a multitude of facts that demonstrate their value as people or future professionals.
To relax your expectations and requirements a little: find goals that depend on you as much as possible. Setting smaller goals often makes it easier to reach or even exceed them (which increases rather than decreases self-confidence).
The norm should not be set outside of oneself, but from within; assess what imposing all these requirements on you and identify the inconveniences they cause you (eg: exhaustion, loss of the pleasure of studying);
beyond a certain threshold, the efforts provided harm you more than they help you (eg: stop studying for a well-prepared exam, rather than reassuring you by constantly checking until the last minute );
remember: no trying, no mistakes and no mistakes, no learning; and then, what would happen if you lowered your standards a little, your criteria? How is it so bad if someone is better at something than you?
AVOID TOXIC THOUGHTS!
Anxiety is caused by different perceptions and attitudes which often deserve to be analyzed and evaluated. If you tend to worry, downgrade yourself, or have different concerns frequently, you can read the text Controlling Toxic Thoughts.
We hope that these avenues of solutions will help you achieve a good quality of life, in your student life as well as in your future profession, and to find a level of stress that motivates you, rather than overwhelming you … Not always easy, in a society which values excellence and performance! Allow yourself time to get to know yourself, to learn to master these strategies, and to strike a balance that is satisfactory for you.